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 第 6254 条留言  昵称:怎么办?  主题:怎么办?
 留言内容:
  老师我该怎么办?感情的事真的好乱!
我简单给您说一下我的情况。我们的感情不好不坏,一直以来,他很在乎我,他是个很负责的男友,我们以为我们能步入婚姻...正因如此在他多次的要求下我把自己给了他,从此他把我当妻待...他现在在张罗我们的婚房,张罗我们以后生活的一切...他说等我一到法定年龄就结婚...可是最近我才发现我并不爱他,只是喜欢他...打心里说我不想嫁给一个我自己不爱的人...可我竟然是在给了他以后才发现自己不爱他...那会儿只知道他肯定会娶我,却忽视了我自已...我该怎么办?
不跟他,我以后怎么给我未来的丈夫交代?跟了他?可我并不爱他,只是对他有好感,喜欢他...
我要是和他分手他肯定会很难过,很难过...况且我知道近段时间是他事业的重要时期,他不可以,也不能受这样的打击...我不想看他难过,不想他事业受挫...可我真的不想、不想嫁给一个我自己不爱的人...我该怎么办?
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗这样的事情比较复杂,看来不懂得爱是什么的时候最好别谈恋爱。面对现实吧,错误的事情难以改变了,不过,你会通过这次恋爱成熟一些的。请你看看6284条留言的回复吧!

    [回复]      222.31.9.* 留言者IP: 222.31.9.*    发表于:2008年11月13日19:22:53

 第 6253 条留言  昵称:想你  主题:忘记
 留言内容:
  我要学会忘记,只有这样,我才有力量开始新的生活.不再留恋过去,努力让自己坚强,像没认识你以前一样的坚强.不再对你心存希望,因为你已经有另一个女孩需要照顾,你不会弃她于不顾,而选择我,你的良心不允许你这样做.放心吧,没有你的日子里,我会好好照顾我自己.
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗多么坚强,可爱的同学,为你祝福!

    [回复]      222.31.11.* 留言者IP: 222.31.11.*    发表于:2008年11月13日8:23:39

 第 6252 条留言  昵称:毛毛雨  主题:
 留言内容:
  这里很好,来了不一定要说话,看看别人的心理状态和版主的回复,同样可以得到很多,很多问题都是大家的共性问题。最重要的是,这里很真实......
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗谢谢评价!

    [回复]      118.78.180.* 留言者IP: 118.78.180.*    发表于:2008年11月12日22:29:11

 第 6251 条留言  昵称:RYM  主题:请教
 留言内容:
  老师,如何能消除失败留下的心理阴影?如何保持持久的动力?
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗忘记过去,面向未来!你分析一下总是想过去的事情有什么结果,再想想自己的理想目标。重新开始追求新目标,总结以前的教训!

    [回复]      118.78.180.* 留言者IP: 118.78.180.*    发表于:2008年11月12日20:32:16

 第 6250 条留言  昵称:阿强  主题:感情
 留言内容:
  您好:
我女朋友常会因为她的一些事情问我,比如她和别人吵架了,或是看不惯某个人的行为或是和学生闹意见了之类的事,她本想是从我这得到些安慰的,可我每次都是让她先从自身去找问题的根本而不是从别人那,因而她感觉我总是在批评她,让她觉得自己一无是处,所以我们经常因为这个吵架。
我想请教一下,我们到底谁不对,还有我们不会有什么心理问题吧。
我认为这只是两个人对问题的看法和出发点不同而已,没有多大的隔阂,因该不会影响我们的感情。
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗你的做法是正确的!你的担心也有一定的道理。女人的弱点是情绪化,理解了这个向她说明,女性也需要学习和成熟!

    [回复]      202.193.15.* 留言者IP: 202.193.15.*    发表于:2008年11月12日15:38:09

 第 6249 条留言  昵称:远方  主题:迷茫
 留言内容:
  是啊,我也很清楚现在最重要的是把自己的学业做好
可心里还是不由自主地去想这些
有太多的不确定,不知道自己能够坚持到什么时候
是我不想去轻易尝试放弃的滋味吧
有时候问过自己好多次他说的话到底有多少是真心实意对我说的呢?
太多的承诺是我们不能承受的,我只希望在一起的时间里能够真心的对待彼此
我不想看到自己的付出和努力换来得却是一场骗局
我不想要那样的残忍在自己身上上演可是在生活和现实面前又显得那样的无能为力
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗你好!人具有逃避痛苦的能力,如果说你还想这样下去,可能是能还没有体验到这种事情带给你的痛苦。女人的弱点是情绪化,只有理智才能克服这样的弱点带给我们的痛苦。冷静想想,你会让自己快乐起来的!

    [回复]      222.31.11.* 留言者IP: 222.31.11.*    发表于:2008年11月12日11:33:28

 第 6248 条留言  昵称:秋雨雨霏  主题:向老师咨询
 留言内容:
  老师,能给我说说抑郁症的一些症状吗?有一年了,心情很不好,思想负担大.喜欢看那些消极作家写的东西.很自卑,可不愿意表现出来.笑不出来.也不知道该怎么发泄.那天当着全班同学的面,一向很擅长演讲的我,大学3年第一次读文章,声音很深沉,老师说像读悼文,我也知道不好,就是发不出声来.
感觉很不好
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗你好!为了帮助你改变自己,别知道抑郁症的表现了吧,我们现在的问题是怎样让自己快乐起来。你已经深刻地体验到了目前的状况:“感觉很不好”,那就改变吧。面向太阳,心里就会充满阳光。遇到事情的时候,首先从积极的角度想;其次,坚持快乐的原则,世界上没有什么过不去的。第三,告诉自己要爱护自己的心灵,感受快乐,不要痛苦。努力一段时间,就会有所改变!

    [回复]      222.31.11.* 留言者IP: 222.31.11.*    发表于:2008年11月11日19:06:14

 第 6247 条留言  昵称:冬天  主题:偏激
 留言内容:
  我都大二了,也知道辨证法,可想问题还是很偏激,知道是错的,就是转不过弯。
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗呵呵,看来你们也逆反自己啊!这样的感觉多数人都有过,当自己受到了错误的严重惩罚或者体验到了改变自己错误思维的成就时,人们才会彻底改变自己原来的思维模式。别着急,慢慢来,相信你会一点一点地改变自己的,超越自己也是一个快乐的过程,试试吧!

    [回复]      222.31.10.* 留言者IP: 222.31.10.*    发表于:2008年11月11日18:57:52

 第 6246 条留言  昵称:纳闷  主题:纳闷
 留言内容:
  老师:
您好!
我有时真的很纳闷,为什么我老不喜欢和那些我不愿相处的人(很少一部分),即使我很用心,感觉就不想处,
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗 这很正常,谁都如此!不过,我们需要更为成熟地考虑与人相处,有些人的举止言谈让你讨厌,但我们可以尽量从对方角度去理解,尽量做到不苛求,毕竟,每个人都有自己的生活背景和生活习惯,从而外化为其言行。   多谢理解、多些宽容,当然,也可以少些来往。  如何?

    [回复]      222.31.25.* 留言者IP: 222.31.25.*    发表于:2008年11月10日19:34:25

 第 6245 条留言  昵称:冬天  主题:我为什么那么笨
 留言内容:
  我对别人的表情,说话意图总是很迟钝,被人往出套话都察觉不到,事后一次偶然才知道。身在人的群体中,不需要有多深的城府但总需要一些最基本的感知力吧,我对人没防备,思维也不会拐弯,怎么这么弱智呀,被人卖了也会帮忙数钱的。哎!!!!!
  写信给我

〖版主回复〗从另一个角度理解,其实你这是一个极大的优点,如果我们总防着这个那个的,多累!!   简单点,快乐就多点。当然,这需要我们用一生来慢慢体会。其实,总算计是人、防备着的人,我想其生命总是劳累的,你说是不是?

    [回复]      222.31.10.* 留言者IP: 222.31.10.*    发表于:2008年11月10日18:43:39

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