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第 9115 条留言 昵称:意义 主题:问题 | |
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大三要考研,之前重心放在学习上,没有积极递
交过思想汇报,但是想要入党,又觉得现在入党 的话会影响考研,没有时间,考研后研究生阶段 还有机会。老师能给点建议吗 |
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〖版主回复〗如果你真的对组织有信仰,考研和交思想汇报不冲突,考研本身就是要求上进的积极表现,再说你也不能一天二十四小时埋头复习考研啊,你说是吧? 如果说心中没有信仰,只是为了给自己“镀金”,那请你慎重考虑。现在组织更关注党员的质量,不再只注重数量,入党的难度比过去更高。 |
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第 9114 条留言 昵称:不开心 主题:情感 | |
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自己不会拒绝别人,又害怕被人拒绝,总是
把最坏的脾气留给了最亲近的人,我该处理 这种情况,这是不是说明自己情商低呀!希 望老师指点迷津 |
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〖版主回复〗“不开心”同学,首先,你要拒绝的意识。 凡事都应该学会拒绝,拒绝你做不到的,不是你不愿意做,而是这不在你能力范围内;别人让你做什么,你就做什么,最终你只会是苦力;别人需要你时你就出现,别人不需要时你就消失,慢慢你会失去自我;其次,不要害怕因为拒绝伤及面子的问题。拒绝,不是你不给别人面子,而是你真心实意的为他负责。如果答应别人了,却因为能力问题做不到或干脆办砸了,对双方来说就面子里子都没了。第三,注意拒绝的技巧,恰当的时间、合适的内容、真诚的语气。最后,同样的原因不要害怕被拒绝,别人感受到了你拒绝的真诚,反而会从内心深处认可你的,不会恶意“拒绝”你! 又:此处的“拒绝”和“被人拒绝”如针对的是情感告白方面,我觉得也适用啊,嘻嘻…… |
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第 9113 条留言 昵称:天煞孤星 主题:活着为了什么 | |
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后悔20多年前为什么活着,太小不懂,早知道活着除了带来伤害,不如早早的离开。看每次那些抑郁者的随笔或遗言感同身受‘现在呢或者一点意义都没有却又怕死’
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〖版主回复〗 面对你的问题,我看后的第一反应是如果没有你的问题,那坐在电脑前的我和我的同事就失去了部分的功能和价值,所以,是你的思考和提问成就了我们的价值,所以你的生命是有价值的、是有意义的! 生活就是要生下来,活下去!人活着一定会遇到各种挫折,面对挫折 ,不同的人有不同的选择。我觉得人之所以不选择去死不是因为没有找到死的理由或者是没有勇气走向死亡,而是因为他们明白自己的价值:妈妈如果在挫折后选择死亡,那么意味着她的孩子在放学后连一顿果腹的饭菜都没有,更别提嘘寒问暖的关心了!孩子如果在挫折后选择一了百了的死亡,则意味着他的父母在饱受丧子之痛后还会经历更加凄凉的晚年!有了众多坚强的父母和孩子,才有了人类社会。正是因为明白了责任与价值之所在,毛泽东同志当年毅然带领红军完成了长征,成就了一个容你我共同生活的新中国、大中国。今天适逢毛泽东同志诞辰124周年,全国各地敬献的花篮里盛装的是对毛泽东同志在历史长河中的责任与担当的高度评价,是对那个生命的价值和意义的充分肯定。国学大师季羡林如是说,“如果人生真有意义与价值的话,其意义与价值就在于对人类发展的承上启下,承前启后的责任感。” 你能思考这么“高大上”的问题,说明你真的在认真思考人生。但想了就要好好想明白,在没有找到必死的信念和理由之前,请认真、顽强地活着。想明白后的人生才会更坚强!建议你去看看国学大师季羡林的散文《人生的意义与价值》和南航徐川的文章《说说生死》。 |
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第 9112 条留言 昵称:lonly 主题:心情 | |
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Merry Christmas
But Im lonly, so lonly...... |
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〖版主回复〗可以理解你的心情。虽然国家已经明文禁止过西方的节日了,街道上为了迎接元旦也早早挂上了中国红灯笼,但好像仍然冲不淡城市里圣诞狂欢的氛围。我相信,随着世界愈来愈开放,西方的节日对国人来说会失去它的神秘感和新鲜感;同时伴随国家日益强大,国人会越来越自信、越来越关注我们自己的节日和文化。好了,我们来说说你这个中国人在外国人的节日里的孤独。或许你本身是孤独的,只是节日的气氛让你不再刻意遮掩自己的孤独。远离了家人的陪伴、未来的男(女)朋友的呵护没有感受到等等原因,你出现了孤独,但是对现在的你来说,最重要是诗书的陪伴和听从远方梦想的召唤。一个人向前冲的过程中,坚定、执着的身影是你灵魂最温暖、最长情的陪伴,加油! |
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第 9111 条留言 昵称:微尘 主题:这段感情该不该坚持到底 | |
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老师,你好。我是咱学校2010级的学生。今
年刚研究生毕业。我和男朋友是研究生期间认 识的。他人品不错,脾气好。他是运城的,现 在在太原上班。家境不太好。现在我考上了我 们县里的老师。家人劝我们分手,觉得异地会 有很多麻烦。我们年纪都不小了。如果,我坚 持在一起,就面临着结婚。可是以我们两个目 前的经济条件,自己都顾不了,怎么结婚呢。 等经济条件好点了再说,那他将三十了。老 师,我该不该坚持这段感情? |
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〖版主回复〗微尘姑娘你好,很高兴你在毕业离校三年多之后还能记得回母校的这个精神家园转转。对于这段感情,最重要的是要搞清楚自己的态度,如果自己都没有足够的毅力要走下去,那你怎么有勇气面对现在异地恋、以后两地分居的婚姻生活之琐碎和艰难;如果有决心,经济问题都是次要的,父母可以帮点,帮不了的话大不了就基础差点起步,何况还有人零起点裸婚呀!我当年的大学同学还有后来的学生有很多都是这样的,现在一样的幸福于尘世生活! |
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第 9110 条留言 昵称:马大力 主题:网站不错 | |
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不错哦!!
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〖版主回复〗谢谢你的称赞!呵呵…… 为同学们服务是我们思政部的宗旨,不论是否已经毕业。欢迎你常来这里,也可以提出你的建议和意见。 |
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第 9109 条留言 昵称:清风自来 主题:不一样,又怎样? | |
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一直以为自己很坚强,可是夜深人静独自躺在床上的时候,还是会很难过。我想要的爱情和别人不同,因为我喜欢的是同性而不是异性。这注定是艰难的,因为没有足够的勇气来面对流言蜚语,是很难走下去的。有时候也想过放弃,但内心很不甘。大学时如果能早意识到自己的性取向,也许还有机会在最好的年华碰到合适的人来谈一场恋爱,可惜一切都已过去,我再也没有机会了。现在我只能压抑自己内心的情感,真的非常痛苦。我该怎么办呢?是向社会和世俗屈服,欺骗一个无辜的女孩结婚吗?这样真的很残忍,我于心不忍,可我又想不到别的好办法了。也许我只能做坚定的不婚主义者。好烦.....老师,您能给我一些宝贵的建议吗?
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〖版主回复〗哦?是这样的情况……这确实注定艰难! 首先,我对你的性取向表示理解并在人文关怀的角度上支持你可能的选择;其次就是,我觉得你是不是可以通过心理咨询试着解决,我想即使不能完全解决也应该会有裨益;第三,为你的纠结而心疼,真的,我也能感受你的善良。不过,我从站着说话不腰疼的角度给你的建议是,试着选择单身主义吧,既不害人也不害己,至于将来,条件成熟的话,可以抱养一个孩子…… 我现在也只能想到这么多了,先这样跟你说。你以后有什么要说的,就来这里说说,母校永远是你的后盾! 祝福你! |
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第 9108 条留言 昵称:清风自来 主题:需要为逝去的青春感到抱歉吗? | |
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老师,您好!我又来了。硕士学习快要结束了,最近忙着找工作和准备毕业论文。参加了国考和事业单位考试,但感觉希望不是很大。不知道为什么,这段时间总会有种很失落的感觉,觉得自己变老了。不是不能接受现实,只是回想起以前在大学时发生的一些事情,开始质疑自己的选择。当年,全身心地投入学习,没有谈过恋爱,也没有结交到好朋友。现在想想,觉得很遗憾。也许当时可以学习爱情两兼顾呢,可是那时候的我真的很纯真,对爱情也是后知后觉,以至于错过了最佳时机。
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〖版主回复〗哈哈,欢迎你又来! 没有关系,人生中偶尔会有个特别的时间段会有特别的感受,可以理解。而且,事实上,你也确实又老了三年了呀?呵呵…… 你能意识到那些问题,说明你确实成熟了起来,我觉得这是好事呢!何必伤感如斯? 快乐起来,笑对人生! |
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第 9107 条留言 昵称:zmh 主题:困惑 | |
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一直感觉,自己有一种强迫性的行为,不管做什么
事,在做过之后,总会回想自己哪里错了,或者忘 记了。。。总感觉自己做过的事有问题。。。有什 么解决的方法吗? |
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〖版主回复〗哦……这样的情况啊?说实话,我还真是不懂,不过,我觉得这不是啥事儿吧,不就是有点完美主义倾向吗? 但是,我还是建议你到学院心理咨询室联系咨询解决(或者电话咨询解决也可以),毕竟,那里是专业的,你至少可以了解了解相关情况,对不对? 拜啦! |
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第 9106 条留言 昵称:傻样。 主题:迷茫 | |
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(接1964条留言)我知道这样想不对,
还没开始有什么资格谈论结果,可是 不知道为什么,一个人的时候总会这 样想。恨自己的不争气,可是又不能 真正下决心去努力一把,不知道自己 到底该怎么办脱离这种困境,希望老 师可以帮帮我,谢谢! |
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〖版主回复〗见我前言所述! 不要犹豫,考研,马上行动! 大家为什么考研呢?原因很多,但有一条是关键的,积极努力奋斗拼搏,年轻人本当如此!还有就是,研究生的阶段,那是一个你从来想不到有多美好的世界!张开双臂去拥抱它吧?! 千万不要再犹豫不决了,好吗? |
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